CBC Radio interviews New York Times journalist Peggy Orenstein [who] decided to delve into the real sex lives of teenaged girls, she decided to go to the source.
After in-depth interviews with more than 70 American young women, aged 15 to 20, and what she learned is intimate justice is lost on young women — to them how they look is more important than pleasure.
“This is a social justice issue in the same way that who does the dishes is a social justice issue.”- Peggy Orenstein on talking about pleasure in sex for young women
AMT: Well let’s keep talking about this. Let’s talk about oral sex. You write that it’s becoming a casual thing. Why is it seen that way?
PEGGY ORENSTEIN: I heard so many stories. It was basically, oral sex was a one way street. Most of the time it was girls performing sex on boys and they did it for a lot of reasons, to gain popularity, to improve or what they felt was improving relationship, to get a boy to like them, whatever they were doing and there are many different reasons. But I started saying to them, because I started getting so frustrated that I would kind of drop my journalistic remove, and I would say, look, what if every time you were with a guy, he asked you to get a glass of water for him from the kitchen but he never offered to get a glass of water for you. Or if he did, it was like [scoffs] okay if you really want me to get the water.